When I first started in film just a few years back, I often worked with myself. It makes sense; everyone is given the same assignment to complete individually, and you don't know anyone else to work with outside of school. I started to delve into my own psyche, in a sense, and created several comedies. Some people may remember 'My Saturday,' a short film in which I play both a boy and a girl who contemplate sex with various animals - a film I would love to recreate with better 'production value,' haha.
And then came 'Girl Talk: Flirting' in late 2010, a character and dialogue-driven comedy based around the idea of "flirting," and my clear inability to do so. Oftentimes when I'm being sincere, people think I'm flirting - and when others flirt with me, I can't understand it. I also like acting as a boy, so this was a convenient vehicle for sharing the love.
And there you have it. I'm a straight-forward person who doesn't like mind games - and believe me, men play just as many mind games as, if not more than, women are portrayed to play...
I have guy friends. And that's it - they're just friends. They're older, and not my type - at all. So, in normal friend fashion, you talk to one friend about another friend - maybe an adventure you went on together, maybe some annoying habit they have. But, because your friends are guys, it's assumed you must be romantically interested in the guy you're talking about. Why? - because this male friend likes you...
Then comes the ass-hurt, "Oh...well you've been hanging out with them a lot..." and, "Yeah, you've been taking a lot of photos with them so I figured you were dating." Right - we're opposite sexes and we hang out a lot, so we're dating. Then, they shame you, and try to make you think you shouldn't be hanging out with your other male friend for various reasons. I could list all the things I've been told in the last few weeks, but that would be just as annoying for you as it was for me.
Then, after all that, they tell you they like you, "I was gettin' on the Geena train, myself, haha!" I'm like - so I'm a train now? Well you're not gonna ride me, that's for damn sure.
But you're attractive and charming, so the guys around you tend to 'start having feelings' for you. Okay, that's nice - that doesn't mean I feel the same way, or that "we" would ever happen. Sure, you can talk about sex, but that doesn't mean you want to have sex with them, nor have any obligation to do so; sharing your thoughts is not a mind game. Adding a smiley face emoticon to a pleasant text is not a 'signal.'
Shaming you, trying to 'neg' you, persuade you - it's unwarranted, childish, and just makes them look pathetic, right? Here's a hilarious article by a pick-up artist that illustrates negging quite beautifully - or, rather, grotesquely. (Before I knew what 'neg' meant, I thought it was just an egg-like object from the children's site Neopets...)
And with that, we segue into my latest idea - a 'Girl Talk' series. I clearly have plenty of thoughts, ammunition, and a continuing desire to dress like men. My god, I love men's clothing...And, when I first created this video five years back, I wrote ten additional scripts for a 'Girl Talk' series. I took a break from comedy for a while, but looking back on this project makes me want to reignite the flames...
You can also read my recent post about growing up as an androgynous figure and identifying with both genders, here, for more on my interest in men's clothing!